Rep. Holmes, nice to meet you

Published 3:44 pm Tuesday, April 15, 2014

Rep. Alvin Holmes doesn’t believe “a whole bunch of whites” would adopt African-American children.

I could introduce him to at least two.

My wife and I would be overjoyed to adopt an African-American boy or girl.

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For that matter, we’d be thrilled to adopt an Asian boy or girl, or a Hispanic boy or girl, or a bi-racial boy or girl.

Not long after Jennifer and I got married we began discussing the possibility of adopting a child. After being blessed to have the opportunity to volunteer at an orphanage in Kazakhstan, we knew with certainty that God was leading us to one day adopt.

At this point we are what is called a “waiting family.”

You don’t have to be a rocket scientist to figure out what that means.

We’ve been cleared by social workers, doctors and even the FBI. We’ve put our entire life story into a book for perspective birth mothers to read. We have completed mounds and mounds of paperwork.

That paperwork included a “desired child form.”

Again, the name says it all.

When we came to the section about the race of the child, we placed a check mark next to each race.

Despite what Mr. Holmes believes, this white couple isn’t concerned with the race of the child we hope to one day adopt.

We don’t regard transracial adoption as some sort of noble action, and we certainly don’t see it as a social statement.

Instead, we simply long to have a child, and it doesn’t matter to us whether that child is white, black, yellow, purple or polka-dotted.

That doesn’t make us special.

In fact, it makes us pretty common among adoptive families, including those in Alabama.

Our state has an ugly history of racism and intolerance. I doubt there are many Alabamians that would argue that.

Across the state there is still plenty of racism and intolerance. You need only listen to Rep. Holmes comments to see that.

But there are also many Alabamians that have moved on from the past and have learned to look past race.

I hope that a recent rally of more than 100 transracial families at the state capitol proved that to Rep. Holmes.