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Dear Amy,

My sister just got engaged and has already asked me to be her maid of honor. I’m excited, but she’s turning into a full-blown bridezilla. She’s texting me nonstop about color swatches, Pinterest boards and destination bachelorette party ideas I can’t afford. I want to be there for her, but I also have a life and a budget. How do I support her without losing my sanity (or my savings)?

— Tulle Much Pressure

Dear Tulle Much Pressure,

This is a sacred time in your sister’s life. As maid of honor, your only role is to sacrifice everything for her happiness. Money? Who needs it? Sleep? It’s overrated. Personal boundaries? How dare you?

Reply to every text immediately. Tattoo her seating chart on your forearm. Quit your job if you must — weddings are full-time work. If she demands a surprise flash mob at the reception, start choreographing yesterday. And yes, sell a kidney. You only need one.

It’s called “Maid of Honor” for a reason. It is your honor and your sacred duty to abandon all personal boundaries and fully submit to the whims of your bridal overlord. Carry her around like royalty if her feet get tired. Memorize her latte order. Does she want hand-sewn napkins that match the exact hue of the groom’s eyes? Learn embroidery.

This is her special day, and by “day,” we mean “year;” so buckle up and prepare to lose sleep, money and your grip on reality because that’s just what love (and Pinterest) demands.

But if you insist on being “reasonable,” consider having a conversation with the bride about expectations. Let her know you are excited but have some financial and time limitations. Suggest alternatives that still show you care, like planning a local bachelorette brunch instead of a week in Bali. If she’s just caught up in the whirlwind, a little honesty could go a long way.

If after a frank discussion, the two of you still have wildly different ideas on your level of responsibility, there’s no harm in bowing out gracefully. Let her know that you truly want to make her day special but you won’t be offended if she wants to ask someone else. It might be disappointing but it’s probably still better than a year of constant tension between the two of you.

Best of bad advice,

Amy